Life as Radd is gay, fab and fun. Now in my adulthood, I just refuse to conform.
Coalition politics is a two-way street. I often hear white LGBTQs complain about a lack of support from minorities when it comes to marriage equality and other issues. But many white LGBTQs do not drive on that street the other way when it comes to linking with struggles of communities of color. Being supportive of other causes does not mean you have to agree 100 percent or even 50 percent of the time. We ask communities of faith to be on our side about marriage, even if it runs counter to their own religious teachings. We ask that they open the tent for LGBTQs simply because it is the right thing to do, even if it is in opposition to their core beliefs. We need to have the same open mind to be good partners in the civil rights movement.
The most pernicious forms of homophobia, sexism and racism come down to a one-on-one basis—and that is what doomed Trayvon Martin on the last night of his life. George Zimmerman probably still feels he is not a racist. He can claim he did not target Trayvon because of his skin color. But he did. We know it. Because every day in each of our lives, we must battle against the stereotypes society drills into us. Through media images, TV shows, movies, and more, we are bombarded with one-dimensional portrayals of people of color, of LGBTs, of women. We have to fight mighty hard to see each individual person as a person in their own right, and not representative of their whole race, their whole gender, of every LGBT person.
Our patient from the other day first presented to an outside clinic, where there is no surgeon, when he still felt too weak to stand several days after being beaten with fists and sticks. He was admitted to the clinic with a swollen, distended abdomen and increasing pain, given intravenous fluids, evaluated with an X-ray and a blood count, suggesting blood loss, followed by a phone call to our project chief and a discussion with me about transfer. At home this patient would have had a CT scan to identify whether he had an injury to the spleen and/or liver, plus checked for signs of other injuries that would suggest he needed surgery. With a stable liver or spleen injury, he would be placed at bed rest to minimize the chance of recurrent bleeding. Here in the Central African Republic the choice was to risk leaving him at a facility that had no capability for an operation or transfer him to Paoua by LandRover with the risk of making any potential bleeding worse, as the trip is slightly less jarring than playing a game of rugby. We told them to send him over as soon as they could. Due to a combination of vehicle availability, road conditions and security issues, it was a full 24 hours before he arrived in Paoua, now almost six days from his initial injury.